All it took was a book.

To my delight R made a suggestion Sunday evening, "Want to sit down and answer questions from this book?" He asked. He was holding '365 questions for Couples.' A coffee table book I bought at Barnes and Nobles when we once had time to browse the shelves of this well-known bookstore.

I was so excited, surprised and all of a sudden a bit nervous. Sitting next to him on the couch I felt like we were in our first dating stages again. The butterflies were back. I had no idea what questions he would ask. How would I respond? And more importantly how would he respond to my replies??

This book has been on the shelf for quite some time now and we've only picked it up a couple of times. I am so proud of my husband for initiating a conversation about things we've never talked about.

After being together for almost 4 years how could there be anything we haven't talked about. Are there really things we don't know about each other? But there are 100's of things to learn and re-learn. That is the joy of relationships. Time changes you just a bit to where the things you once knew are different today than they were when you met.

Now a days advice is easy to access. But, sometimes, turning off all those distractions and sitting together on the couch makes a big difference. Write your own questions or do research for questions in advance. Have an open mind to the possibilities. The only rule is: you can not ask a question you are not willing to answer yourself.

I found out a couple interesting things about R. His questions and answers made me feel good. The whole conversation lasted about a half hour (E woke up) but here it is 3 days later and I am still smiling. All it took was a book.

Keep Loving.