Hows the married life?

Hows the married life? Question of the year. Atleast it is for me. News flash everyone: MARRIED LIFE IS THE SAME as "In a relationship" life, same as engaged life.

Maybe people are just recognizing the fact that Im married as they ask how I are you doing. But EVERYONE asks it. Its not annoying by any means. The major problem I have with it is answering the darn thing. I can not hardly give them a shpeal about how the dishes are piling up and so is the laundry and I cried for 3 hours over feeling left out and I dont know if its because of my period because I barely keep track of it on top of bills and credit card payments. *sigh*
(And do any of those things really matter?)

When you get married its not a life altering event. The day of is, ofcourse. But getting married, uniting your life to someone elses life, for all eternity really just gives you peace of mind. If its 100% the right decision and both man and woman are whole heartedly making this choice then there is just peace. Knowing and feeling, without even trying that this person is and will always be your lover, friend and mate. It is a feeling of completeness.

Okay, okay, okay. Im lying. Some things change. The love is stronger, the future is brighter, your goals are now our goals. And ofcourse you have to practice a brand new signature. Its like going back to grade school. *wink*

Somedays are difficult, somedays are great and somedays are just in the middle. You look forward to an empty sink, a clean toilet, no laundry to do (which almost never happens). You find solice in accomplishing chores and actually start to enjoy the days you leave the house to go to work. (Then you can clean sonething else besides whats inside your 4 walls).

But, if your really smart you'll learn to go back a few decades and barder or just ask for help. "Hey honey I scrubbed the whole kitchen, will you scrub the toilet?" :D
And you might find it WORKS!

The best advice I recieved at my bridal shower, from my cousin Erica, (who has been married for a couple years now) was to just ask. And I would give the same advice to any newly wed or bride. I've only been married for 45 days but those 2 words of advice have helped a lot.

Another piece of advice Id like to give other couples, whether your married or not, pick 1 night a week for date night. Just you 2. No cell phones, no tv, no kids, no friends. Just you 2. Make it the same day of the week. And have fun with it. Take turns picking what/where the date will be. It will serve as a way to come back to home base after a long week. I have to say it will make a difference. OH and Thanks to my brilliant mother for this one.

It all takes time. Its give and take. Its sacrafice. Its finding pleasure in the small things. And its still learning about each other as you grow together.

So if you are still curious how the married life is...a work of art in progress.

Keep loving.