The iceburg of life.

It amazes me what we go through and what we overcome as a couple. We lean on each other, hold up one another and lift each other up through everything (plus a few arguments here and there.)

We've faced some rather troubling times as an engaged couple. The ups and downs through lossing a job, finding a new one and the scary time in-between when you can't afford food, gas, internet or other luxuries, the shared custody lifestyle and ins and outs of a court house and judge rulings. Not to mention, the "other's" twisted rollercoaster we try not to ride, the paying of bills and debt and keeping it straight is a small struggle but definitely adds to the load, planning our wedding and wanting it to be absolutely perfect.

That's just the tip of the iceburg. But it seems even though the shards of ice come flying at us, we push through and it slowly melts away. With every hiccup there's a deep breath and we become stronger.

As long as we continue to talk and communicate. :) My mom is always saying, "Talk, communicate and just keep talking." Who knew mom's were so smart? It's true. Talking works a lot better than slamming doors and walking away.

Through all of these struggles Ryan and I always try to come out on top. Who doesn't though right? What I mean by coming out on top is we hope that we become better people, closer together and stronger. One thing we do to keep us focused is our "disciplines." Once a month we evaluate ourselves and chose 1 focus for a month. I write it down and keep it in a visible spot (a place we look everyday. Ex. The bathroom mirror). It might be: patience, integrity, find peace, avoid gossip, etc. These things help build our personality and awareness of who we are and who we're becoming. It's not easy but day by day it gets easier and can even be fun.

At the end of the month we evaluate ourselves and each other to decide if we've tacked the specific discipline and if so we make a new one. If not, we focus harder and decide how we can improve in this area. You can keep a discipline as long as you need. It's about flexibility and improvement!

Well I have a 10 foot to-do list today. Hopes to you for a bright sunshiney day.

Keep loving.